Monday, July 23, 2012

Thank Goodness for Waterproof Mascara.

Last week our family had the shock of loss move through our family. 
It was the middle of the night call no one ever wants and is never prepared for.  
My husband's nephew was killed in a car accident.  He was 31.
That sentence holds much grief for so many people.
He was a father, son, brother, fiancé, nephew, uncle, cousin and friend.   

How do you possibly say goodbye to this handsome young man?
I have no idea. The grief is raw and brutal.
But we did one thing to help......

We got busy.
We made bracelets. Lots of 'em.
As many as we could, and handed them out at the funeral to his friends and family.
There were special ones for his mother, sister, fiancé and his girls.
We made over 60. They are adjustable and fit everyone.


He has identical twin daughters. 
They are adorable in every way possible.
At gatherings this past week, they lifted our hearts immeasurably.


Why do we wait to celebrate people?
This confounds me.

Why didn't we have a "Let's Celebrate John!" day two weeks ago? A month ago?
How we wish we could have told him the things we wanted to. Should have.

I feel like picking one of my friends and throwing a party for them just because they Are.
Then continue on friend by friend, family by family.

I have learned this:
Judge no one. Love is everything.

To his daughters, to his fiancé, to Alese, to his mother, sister, father, Howard,
 and all of us who have lost the promise of his future, I am so sorry.

xo jeanne.

*Thank you so much for your earlier comments.
I have removed the Sad Dog post.*


  1. Well said, Jeanne. So sorry for your loss.

  2. We went through a similar loss two years ago. It's still hard. But not quite as wrenching. Wishing your family peace and healing and the gift of enjoying every moment of Life.

  3. I am so very sorry!!! I have a son that is would just break my heart...
    I'm going to have a Minnesota Blogger's gathering in Sept! Thinking either the 22 or 29 and would LOVE to have you come!
    My BFF just informed me that she has liver cancer..I think she needs a party!

  4. I am so sorry for your family's loss. This is very heartbreaking. What you wrote says it all Jeanne. Beautiful. Praying for you guys.

  5. Tragic.
    I lost a fiance also 10 years ago.
    Prayers for everyone.

    Gloria in Virginia

  6. Oh Jeanne,

    I am so sorry for your loss. I wish words could offer you and your loved ones comfort. Please know that you are now in our thoughts and prayers. He sounds like a most wonderful man.

  7. Dear Jeanne,

    What a beautiful post and tribute to a very special soul. And an incredibly huge loss for you and your family. Our prayers are with you and we are holding you all in our hearts.

    Much love,


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